“Right now you are one choice away from a new beginning - one that leads you toward becoming the fullest human being you can be.”
Oprah Winfrey
Why do we stay? Why do we keep doing the same things over & over when we know it does not, will not work out the way we want? Why do we keep moving in the same circles; repeating the same cycles, expecting different results?
I hung up & cringed; embarrassed at my Self. Then I cried. I cried because I didn't want it to be over. Then I cried because it was...over. I had loved this man for a very long time & I believe, in his own way, he loved me too-- as best he could. But it was not enough & I knew that. I held onto this on again-off again thing; keeping myself caught on an emotional roller coaster that helped me avoid the real issue: my own fear of intimacy. Now, I had had enough & it was over! It needed to be. It was time for me to...move on & make a real choice to love & be loved.
In her book, The Ten Things To Do When Your Life Falls Apart
, Daphne Rose Kingma writes, "Different circumstances call on us to be different. To grow or die. To expand or contract. To fly or get lost in the rubble. As our world changes, we must change.When are circumstances are altered, we must alter our responses to them." I would add, that we must make a choice to allow ourselves to evolve into a higher state of being. Evolving is, after all, a natural thing. But, when our hearts are involved, making a change, letting go, it all seems like the hardest thing to do--even when we know it is for our own good. When we are so attached to the outcome of what we want, as opposed to what we need, the thought of starting again can be terrifying.
, Daphne Rose Kingma writes, "Different circumstances call on us to be different. To grow or die. To expand or contract. To fly or get lost in the rubble. As our world changes, we must change.When are circumstances are altered, we must alter our responses to them." I would add, that we must make a choice to allow ourselves to evolve into a higher state of being. Evolving is, after all, a natural thing. But, when our hearts are involved, making a change, letting go, it all seems like the hardest thing to do--even when we know it is for our own good. When we are so attached to the outcome of what we want, as opposed to what we need, the thought of starting again can be terrifying.Most of us believe that starting again has to be hard. But, what if we began to see it as an opportunity to do something different? What if we began to recognize new beginnings as a chance to try out our new skills; test ourselves on what we've learned from the past & begin new habits that nurture us into becoming our best Selves? What would be so hard about that? It might be letting go of the familiar. It might be hard to create a new pattern; one that's healthy & functional & good for us. It might just be that we enjoy the drama in our lives & we just don't want to let it go!
~~I wiped away the tears & took a deep breath & in that moment I made a new choice to simply...do something different.
~~I wiped away the tears & took a deep breath & in that moment I made a new choice to simply...do something different.
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